The Perfectionist Treadmill and the Validation Crab Bucket
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Perfectionism is a treadmill: it takes a lot of energy, it gets you nowhere while you’re on it, and while it can be healthy to engage in for a limited spurt of time, you’ve got to step off of it after a little while. We know what a trap perfectionism can be. It can make us hate our flawed, human selves. It can make us vicious toward others. No one hates fat people more than the newly-thin; no one hates poor people more than the self-made man. Scam artists use the promise of relentless self-improvement (lose weight! get rich! boost your immune system! become irresistible to women!) to sell snake oil and reactionary philosophies.
The Perfectionist Treadmill and the Validation Crab Bucket
The Perfectionist Treadmill and the…
The Perfectionist Treadmill and the Validation Crab Bucket
Perfectionism is a treadmill: it takes a lot of energy, it gets you nowhere while you’re on it, and while it can be healthy to engage in for a limited spurt of time, you’ve got to step off of it after a little while. We know what a trap perfectionism can be. It can make us hate our flawed, human selves. It can make us vicious toward others. No one hates fat people more than the newly-thin; no one hates poor people more than the self-made man. Scam artists use the promise of relentless self-improvement (lose weight! get rich! boost your immune system! become irresistible to women!) to sell snake oil and reactionary philosophies.